This is our first month trying to conceive. It’s been very exciting (making babies!!!), but a little frustrating (The Two Week Wait), as well.

I’ve been charting my basal body temperature (BBT), checking my cervical…fluid, and using ovulation tests to check my LH (luteinizing hormone) levels. I started charting my BBT 5 weeks or so before we started trying, just to try to get a baseline of what was normal for me. Unfortunately, I was varying degrees of sick for 2 of those weeks, so my numbers still wound up a little funky.
The best laid plans and all that.
So, from what I can tell, my normal/average BBT is about 97.4 degrees Fahrenheit. Based on the length of my March/April cycle and my cervical…fluid, my fertile days this month were April 9-15. My temperature dipped down a little during those days to an average of 97 degrees flat.
Husband and I did the Baby Dance on April 9th, 10th, 11th, and 13th. It has us marked as having done the Baby Dance on the 12th, but we didn’t.  Here is my chart courtesy of Fertility Friend.
Fertility Friend Basal Body Temperature Chart
My husband and I are partial to having a baby boy first, so that is why we did the dance so often early in my fertile phase. Have you heard of the Shettles Method? It is a gender selection method from the 1960s, but it turns out it’s also wrong. If you read my Must Read Monday post reviewing The Impatient Woman’s Guide to Getting Pregnant, you know that Dr. Jean M. Twenge reviewed several medical journal articles and studies and decided that Shettles had it exactly backwards. Shettles thought that the further out from ovulation you had intercourse, the more likely you were to have a girl. Therefore, the closer you are to ovulating when you have sex, the more likely you are to have a boy.
Dr. Twenge says the opposite – the further ahead of your ovulation that you have sex, the more likely you are to produce a boy (especially if you increase your potassium intake), and the closer to ovulation (especially day of ovulation) you do the deed, the more likely you are to have a baby girl (especially if you increase your calcium intake).
For our first month of TTC, we figured we would shoot for a boy. If we weren’t successful on this first try though, I imagine we’ll become less discerning and do the deed as often as possible, regardless of proximity to ovulation.
My luteal phase (the number of days from when you ovulate to when you have your period) last month was 14 days. I’ve read that you can start taking pregnancy tests and get a positive result as soon as 10 days post-ovulation, but longer is always better. From my BBT readings, I ovulated on the 14th, which means I can expect Aunt Flow (or not) on April 28th. That also means that I can take a pregnancy test on April 24th.
So, now I am in the midst of the dreaded Two Week Wait. It’s amazing how much waiting is involved in trying to conceive. I almost envy the woman who accidentally gets knocked-up, simply because she didn’t have to distract herself for 2 weeks every month waiting to pee on a stick.
I’m very anxious about the waiting. Especially because my temperature seems to be staying a little higher since I ovulated. If, after you ovulate, if you see a temperature spike (some women don’t) that maintains itself throughout your whole two week wait, that can be a very early sign that you are pregnant! But, if you see high temperatures for let’s say…12 days, and then it drops back down, you could have had a chemical pregnancy or super early miscarriage that you otherwise wouldn’t have even known about if you hadn’t been charting.
For that reason, I’m on the fence about continuing to take my BBT in the mornings between now and Aunt Flow. I feel like I might drive myself crazy. If I keep seeing an elevated temperature, I’ll start to think, “Oh my god, we totally knocked it out of the park on the first try.” And then if my temp takes a dive and I start “my period” I’ll know that I had an early miscarriage. Very early miscarriages are so common (I’ve had one fairly early miscarriage before, when we weren’t TTC), and even though there is nothing I can do, even though I was barely even pregnant, I think I’d rather not know.
So, there ya go. There is your first intimate look in to my trying-to-conceive journey. Better get used to it, cause there will be a whole. Lot. More. In the future.  😉
Where are you on your TTC journey? Is this your first trip down Conception Road, or are you a regular?

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Author: Jess Leonard

It's me, Jess! Seen here with Husband, and one of our pooches, Ainsley. I'm 27-years-old, beyond ready for babies, and super broke. Join me on this insane journey of figuring out how to live the lives we want as baby crazy, but heavily indebted millennials. Fun facts about me: I grew up in Southern California, near Coachella, I looooove jamming on my planner (I use a MAMBI Happy Planner), and my spirit animal is Leslie Knope.

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